Comments on my clothes, my hair and says I look like a "ghost girl". Even when we are sick, we debate whether to take medicine prescribed by a doctor or the herbs and traditional remedies she grew up with, like Brave Orchid did with her sister's medicine. My mother is adamant in her beliefs and I feel it is unfair of my mother to be so closed minded and stuck in her traditional ways because she always told me she immigrated to America for a better life and a fresh state. If he was going to uproot his entire life to start a new one in a foreign country, how could he expect to survive without learning to compromise and accept American culture? My feelings parallel Kingston's in how she felt frustrated by her mother's persistence in only accepting Chinese culture. I think sometimes my mother's stubbornness pushes me more towards Western culture. In fact, I occasionally find myself using the phrase “you Chinese” when I ask my mother about my culture, and she always scolds me and asks “What? You're not