Many times the media uses movies and TV to falsely portray adolescence as an adventure or a huge lesson. The reality of the situation is that adolescence is really about following convention and striving to reach the top. Popularity is defined differently depending on culture, but generally includes the richest, most famous, and most educated people. For those who don't fit in, this can make adolescence more of a war than anything else, even if that war is becoming harder and harder to see. The results can be catastrophic. However, we can help. The biggest struggle teenagers face today is how to fit in with the right group, but we all have a duty to respond to those who don't. Adolescence is about fitting in with your group and achieving the aspiration of being “popular.” The phrase “not standing out” suggests that we all want to be identical, but that's not how we feel. In fact, we want to "integrate" with those who are different because they stand out. As Jane Elizabeth illustrates, “A group of girls invented a fictitious rock band and told the victim that the group was real. The victim, desperately trying to fit in, claimed to be a fan of the band” (Elizabeth, 4 years old). For most teenagers, it is important to truly be part of the elite. Every day, walking through the halls, I notice individuals who aspire to be popular and who want to be a copy of themselves to be part of the top of the food chain. Seeking to fit in, individuals desperately want to be recognized, to have the chance to be one of those we see on TV or those who walk fearlessly down the halls of school; be popular. Popularity is defined by your social class and culture, but many commonalities are money, fame and mannerisms. Having money is a very important component in the upper social class of almost all cultures