People delude themselves into thinking that social technology improves human intimacy and helps loneliness. They think that social technology gives them the opportunity to connect with others even if they are far away, and gives them comfort if they need a listener, a friend, and even a lover. Gopnik writes that people have a causal understanding from birth, pointing to the example that “eat more to grow more.” Core capabilities are what make possibilities real. “Once you know how one thing is causally linked to another, you can predict what will happen to one thing if you act to change another: you can see what difference it will make making things different. (Gopnik 172) When using social technology, people know that the relationship between it and the people themselves helps them transition to another situation they desire. They know their phone can help them connect with others, but they also understand how much it could cost them if they continually pay attention to social technology. But they don't stop using it because people allow it to take us places we don't know where to go.